7 tips to get out of a rut
Nobody talks about how difficult it is to get yourself out of a rut.
Have you ever been in that situation where no matter how much you wanted to move forward, taking that first step felt like pushing a granite wall?
You probably already know that…
When you enter a cycle of unhealthy eating, it's harder to put that chocolate bar aside and eat cruciferous vegetables instead. There is less immediate dopamine and serotonin release. Highly palatable foods, just like with drug addictions, can be harder to stop because of these reward circuits, making that initial switch to wholesome foods a struggle (you can feel really good just after 3 days of eating well!).
When you haven’t exercised for a while, going back to working out can be a very discouraging experience. No stamina, sweat dripping down your face, and being much more conscious about your body and the unwanted fat rolls you so desperately want to get rid of because you hate how you look in the mirror.
When you procrastinate and don't get things done, it's much easier to continue the unproductive cycle. Making lists and not ticking them off, scrolling on socials for distraction and piling up projects because tackling one thing at a time seems like a never ending task. Isn’t that how progress is made?
When you don't make enough money, or make just enough just to get by, it's easier to stay in self-pity than to actually do something about it.
It’s easier to complain that there is not enough, that the boss didn’t give you the pay raise, that social media algorithms are blocking your content, and that financial cap is a normal part of life.
But actually getting another skillset, removing your money scarcity mindset, putting the right content out, doing sales calls, facing objections, enrolling clients, demonstrating your leadership & communication skills..that takes way too much work.When you are constantly on the go, working your ass off, keeping your nervous system on accelerate, then slowing down might come with guilt that you are not doing enough and you are falling behind.
When you stay in a relationship that doesn’t truly make you happy and fulfilled, where your needs are not met, where you feel you cannot truly express yourself.. It’s easier to stay than do the work or leave.
Just like it’s easier to be single because ‘giving up’ your freedom and building a relationship take work.
What really holds us back though? What caps our own potential?
We are clouded by our own beliefs, attitudes, values, concepts and ideas we took on from our parents, the environment we grew up in, our experiences and the people we surround ourselves with now.
As we call it in NLP, our model of the world.
I don’t know which area of your life is blocked now, but have you noticed how easy it is to get used to the ‘pain’?
Ask someone who has been medicated for a while and doesn't know what good & healthy feels like anymore.
➣ The question is, how long can we keep the engine running before we completely run out of fuel?
➣ When do we make a decision to get ourselves out of pain?
Sadly, and I'm pretty sure you've experienced this too, we often wait till it gets so bad that we can't take it anymore.
We get to the pit of our pain.
Oh, wait a minute - we can adjust to this level of pain too!
Just like that frog in the pot.
When you put the frog in cold water and let it boil, it won’t even notice how the temperature slowly changes.
But if you threw it directly into boiling water, it would immediately jump out.
Don't be that first frog.
My beautiful friend, you have so much potential, so much knowledge, so much passion and love. Be courageous enough to take those steps to create an empowering and fulfilling life for yourself!
I you feel stuck in any area of your life now and find it hard to get the consistent momentum, here are my tips:
Get clarity on what you want. This is HUGE.
In business, in relationships, career and life. If you are foggy about what you want SPECIFICALLY, that flight you want to get on will stay on standby for as long as it takes for you to choose the direction. Focusing on where you don’t want to go, won’t get you to where you want to go.
Support circle.
Cultivate close friendships which create safety. You need that trust and safety to be vulnerable and open up. Not everyone will get you and not everyone can create that. That’s why I personally love my NLP community as we support each other without judgment.
Get someone you can be accountable to.
I personally work with coaches who help me stay on track and give me a much needed kick when things get rocky. I don’t do hand holding in my coaching and that’s what I appreciate in coaches I work with too. It’s all done with love, but not flakiness.
Have an external goal, something to look forward to i.e. a challenge / an event / a trip somewhere. If your intrinsic motivation runs low or is not present - most likely due to your unconscious values (we can discover & change them with NLP techniques), then having an external motivation will be useful to get you going. Ultimately, you want to work on your intrinsic, unconscious motivation so when times get hard, your default programming will support you instead of sabotaging.
Clear your subconscious limitations.
This is the driving force of your pain. If you don’t address that, which we can easily do during the training or a breakthrough, it is indeed going to be hard to get out of the current situation. Facts.
Be honest with yourself.
Take a look at your life as it is now from a bird’s eye view. Detach from your emotions for a movement.
Ask yourself:
Is what I’m doing right now working?
Is it helping me get to where I want to be?
No?
What do I need to make the change? New skills? A coach? A support group of like-minded professionals?
As Mel Robbins says: “No one is coming”.
Hard truth, but really, no one is.
If you need help, you need to take the first step and raise your hand, book that call, send that message, do what you need!
You are resourceful, and even though you could do it alone, there is a reason why you haven’t done it yet.
And most importantly,
Give yourself the permission to move forward.
Show yourself more love and kindness.
You deserve the absolute best this life has to offer!
Alina is an NLP Trainer & Master Coach and has a decade of experience of managing private medical and wellness clinics in the heart of London and working with UHNWI. She is also a trained Nutritional Therapist and a PT. She specialises in training and coaching ambitious professionals, business owners and entrepreneurs who know they have more to offer but are blocked by their inner limitations. In her trainings she teaches personal mastery, communication and performance skills, to help individuals and companies create the results they desire!
If you would like to work with Alina or join her training, get in touch!
